In 2024, Kansas City welcomed over thirty talented artists and performers to compete on Second Chance Stage, a television show that serves to give people a second shot at some of their biggest dreams. From a grocery store clerk who can belt out opera songs, to a special education teacher who sings to uplift those around him, to a flight attendant whose dreams of stand up comedy will never be dashed, the stages at the historic Music Hall and Arrest Bank Theater at The Midland were absolutely lit up – physically and emotionally – with every performance. I was lucky enough to be hired as an associate producer on the project, along with the my twin sister. It was here that we fell in love with a select few performers that we just couldn’t get enough of.
One of those outstanding entertainers? A comedian by the name of Xazmin Garza. During the entire two weeks of filming, we found ourselves drawn to her energy. From her live sets to the content she shares with such vulnerability, it’s clear that Xazmin has lived a thousand different lives. And bits of her story are so deeply relatable, that the humor she finds in life – dark at times – is undeniable. She is a captivating artist, and I’m just sorry I didn’t know about her sooner.
And when you sit down to watch Second Chance Stage – we will just assume you haven’t, but that you will immediately and then suggest it to all of your friends – you will understand why. When a comedy set has everyone cheering, and the comedian’s story leaves not a dry eye in the house, you know there’s magic in the air. When she tells you, specifically, “My biggest influences are Chris Rock and all female athletes,” then you know you’ve met someone with that extra sparkle.
And that’s exactly what she told us when she sat down to answer a few questions with us.
Upfront, Xazmin Garza will tell you who she is and how proud she is of herself and her family, an ownership we need more of onstage. An unrelenting appreciation for what we have when we have it. Some of her jokes will center on feeling “other” in many different types of scenarios – from growing up in Utah, to living on the east coast, to finding a church she can really vibe with – and they’re endlessly relatable. “I grew up in Utah. I’m not white or Mormon so I never felt at home there,” she explains, understandably. “I couldn’t wait to leave and be around more racially diverse people. But yeah, being from a place where I was called the ‘n’ word as a child (wtf?!) definitely shaped who I am today. I’ll probably always be healing in some way from that, whether I realize it or not.”
While she heals from experiences like growing up in Utah and moving from New York City and feeling like she lost momentum on her comedy career, she seems to have hit a groove in recent months. And her fanbase is benefitting. Her jokes are solid, her delivery is confident, and her moves feel purposeful.
But it wasn’t always exactly this smooth. She got started in comedy in her late thirties, which is almost unheard of for female entertainers, and played to many audiences across the east coast in cities like Boston and New York. Thank goodness society has gotten a kick in the ass and is beginning to appreciate different perspectives in comedy now, because Xazmin always found purpose in bringing others joy.
I could always bring my loved ones to tears with laughter. The more defining moment [when I realized I wanted to pursue comedy] was when I realized doing that was the best feeling in the world to me. I was at a wedding where I was someone’s plus one. I was cracking up all my date’s friends and I could tell it was upsetting my date. I could’ve gotten quiet from there, and just sat and looked pretty, but I chose to keep upsetting him.
I’m sure she’s found herself involved in many defining moments since, especially as she pursued comedy in New York City. “Moving to New York to make it as a comedian was scary,” she admits. “I knew it was going to be lonely and hard but I believed in my skills enough to do it anyway. It felt amazing to have something worth doing that for.”
In all honesty, I haven’t seen near enough of her material to understand how much she has evolved. But I do know that she went through the wringer as a female comic. Because of that, she has so much respect for other female comedians, and a really strong stance on how to maintain self-respect that most people could learn from. “When I was starting out, a local headliner told all the female comics not to fuck the guy comics,” she tells us. “I totally disagree with that. I just wish female comics wouldn’t fuck guys—comics or not—who don’t think they’re funny. If a woman is serious about comedy, she shouldn’t do that to herself or her art.”
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Xazmin recently moved to Arizona to be a source of full-time support for her mother, whose dementia diagnosis has provided a different set of experiences to fuel her growing comedy career. When Xazmin talks about her mother – whether she is posting a video to social media in vulnerability or mentioning her during a set – you can see deep appreciation and warmth wash over her. “My mom’s dementia caused her to lose some of her inhibitions,” she explains. “She laughs loud as hell now—like her kids do. When I hear her cracking up laughing—especially when I caused it—I feel so happy. Yes, because she’s having a good time but to hear her that free and taking up space gives me so much pride as her caregiver.”
Xazmin isn’t just getting support through her family unit back in Arizona, her day job fully backs her comedic aspirations. They posted about their star copywriter on their social media accounts when her episodes of Second Chance Stage were airing. “My day job has been supportive of my comedy aspirations from day one. I’m very fortunate in that regard. They encourage me and truly want to see me win. Plus, there’s no one in the world I would hide this from. ‘I’m dope and I do dope things!'”
Now, to get to Second Chance Stage, which was filmed in the springtime of 2024. Every contestant from a warm weather state was losing their minds while we suffered through freezing temperatures during that time. One of the perks, Xazmin, admits, was the food. “I liked the barbecue in Kansas City,” she remembers.
I, personally, think this warrants another trip to our city to rank the best barbecue, but we can table that for now.
After we wrapped, the contestants and crew had to wait eight months before the first shows aired. This type of wait time is not as common, but reality television often has a lot more footage to sort through and compile. This particular show, like many on-stage competitions, incorporated both live performance and documentary-style footage, a crew of dozens, and a lot of good energy. Xazmin had no problem keeping the experience tucked away, though. Confidently and hilariously, she admitted, “I’m a great secret keeper. Especially when I sign 42 pages of legal documents promising to keep a secret!”
Xazmin’s experience as a contestant was reason enough for her to keep the secret close to the vest. “The experience [on Second Chance Stage] was the time of my life. We got the star treatment, I got validation from the judges and audience, and I went home with restored hope for the future of my career.” This was such a golden takeaway for everyone in the cast, crew, and audience. The performers all left with advice to further their careers, nuggets of inspiration, and having inspired theaters full of dreamers, me included.
When asked directly how she handled staying grounded and calm during her stay in Kansas City, Xazmin admitted that her mother had a lot more to do with it than any distance would have indicated. In honesty and hilariously, she admitted, “I stayed grounded because my mom was calling me while I was in my hotel room, telling me my dad doesn’t take care of her as well as me.”
See what I mean? Humor. Grace.
While those words of affirmation may have kept her going during her two weeks in Kansas City, what about the things that get her amped up on a regular basis? “On my drive to the club, I listen to music that hypes me up. ‘Queen Bitch’ by Lil Kim and ‘X Gon Give It to Ya’ by DMX. Once I’m in the green room, I just try to be in good spirits before I go up so I can genuinely bring positive energy to the stage. I avoid people and energy that piss me off or make me self-conscious.” In other words, she’s living the life we all strive for.
If she had one piece of advice for someone beginning their career later in life, it would be this: “I would tell someone starting comedy later in life to use their life experience to their advantage. They have stories to tell and a point of view to share. I’d also tell them that if they don’t want to learn how to edit videos to not start doing comedy.”
The following is a quote straight from the lips of the angel Xazmin Garza herself, perhaps a bit of advice for anyone who chooses to pursue her – professionally, personally, or otherwise – for any reason in the future.
Oysters and dirty martinis always put me in celebration mode. It is time to party when I’m having those.
Keep up with Xazmin on Instagram, where she posts all upcoming shows and comedy updates.
